Baby Daddy Drama

I don't know why this bothers me, maybe because I thought there was hope for Treston's father and I to be friends again for Treston's sake. Once again my false hopes get the best of me. Every time we get on talking terms he always brings up sex...sex....sex, but knowing he is promiscuous scares me. Well this time was no different. The only time he comes over is to get some booty, never to see his son and every time we stop talking it is because of lies and his disinterest in the one thing that keeps him in my life, whether I want him in it or not. The only reason we are still aware of each others existence is because of Treston and if it weren't for that, I could care less. It saddens me more than anyone knows that MY son is the one losing here. No effort is put forth in building a relationship with him and when plans are made.....he cancels them every time. He has never been there for any illnesses or hospital stays and as a matter of fact never even called to check on him. That just shows me he doesn't care at all and his own flesh and blood is not a priority to him. That and the fact that the most I've gotten from him financially is 100.00 here and there.....I could be a bitch and take him to court but I am not dragging another child through child support battles and the unnecessary drama that he never asked for.
I am guessing that some people when never change no matter how much they tell themselves they have. A dog is a dog and you can't make it a cat...lol. How selfish is a man that is married and will screw anyone and have kids with multiple women. To compulsively lie on top of lies to try and have an excuse or a reason for why he is like that. To allow the older children to see and go thru that and then continue it like it's not wrong. To literally emotionally destroy every single person in their lives lovers, kids, friends.....and still only care about what makes them happy. It's actually pathetic and sad that there is no conscience telling him that it's not right.
The reason I have put my foot down this last and final time is for one reason..Treston Aleczander. I WILL NOT allow Treston to be lied to or manipulated by NO man. I do not feel that he is fit to be a father emotionally. You ignore your own child yet you can take on another one with a G/F. I've seen 1st hand what lying and unreliability does to a child, I'll be damned if I put another through it. At the age of 2 y/o I can count on my hands how many times he has spent over an hour with his child and on hands and feet how many times he has seen him awake.
So am I wrong for stopping the contact all together or should I allow the lies and manipulation to continue on until Treston is old enough to understand his dad is an asshole? To let Treston feel like he's not good enough for his own father. To be lied to and let down over and over until he loses trust in all men, because after all if your own father doesn't care....who will?

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