What do men really want?

I've always been told everyone wants the same thing, "to be happy". If that is true then why aren't we? Every man I have ever dated has lied or done things that make many people miserable and I am sure women are the same, but I have never dated a woman. Everyone complains about lies and dishonesty, so why lie? Yes I can understand the little white lies but not the ones that truly affect a persons life.
The man I have was seeing had been pretty open with me, that I know of, but there are little things that I question and only because there are alot of "little things". If someone wants alone time they should say so instead of ALWAYS having some excuse. My phone died or broke I can understand this, but what I don't understand is why is there Always something wrong with the phone, why don't you keep another log of your numbers just in case or my favorite one is that you just didn't recieve the call or text. What about being sick? If you don't feel well, does your finger hurt to much to text and simply say your sick. There is always an emergency that has come up, phone issues, sicknesses but where are the reasons you WANT to see me? Where is the excuse to HAVE to come over or the need to hang out? I am not saying these excuses are all lies but if they are what is he really doing with the time I don't hear from him. If I don't hear from you for 3 days because your phone broke, what stopped him from just coming to my house or calling from a home phone?
If someone says they love you.....what is it that they love about you? If they say they do love you but show the actions mentioned above.....how much do they really love you? If they show these actions and won't communicate with you but say they want to be with you and love you.....shouldn't love drive that person to want to communicate with you so you don't think these thoughts or simply make tht excuse to be near you?
What is it that needs to be done to find out exactly what you a man wants from a woman? Should I wait around another 14 months to see if things change, continue to be patient and understanding no matter my doubts, allow these excuses to pile up? Should I accept things will never change in our relationship and move on or hang around and wait to see if things really will change with more time?
I just don't understand it......